Sexual Addiction Recovery Reading Resources

For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (1983). Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., Hazelden, Center City, Minnesota.

Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001). David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin & Joseph Moriarity. Gentle Path Press, Wickenburg, AZ.

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.  

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001). Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN.

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage.  Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book.

Confronting Pornography (2005). Mark D. Chamberlain, Daniel D. Gray, and Rory C. Reid. Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT.

Contrary to Love (1989). Patrick Carnes. CompCare Publishers, Minneapolis, MN.

Disclosing Secrets, When, to Whom, & How Much to Reveal: A Gentle Path Workbook for Disclosing Sensitive Addiction Secrets (2002). M. Deborah Corley & Jennifer Schneider. Gentle Path Press, Wickenburg, AZ.

Don’t Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction (1991). Patrick Carnes. Bantam Books, New York, NY.

The Drug of the New Millennium, Internet Pornography: The Science of How Pornography Radically Alters the Human Brain and Body (2001). Mark B. Kastleman. Granite Publishing & Distributing LLC, Orem, UT.

Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery (2005). Patrick Carnes. Gentle Path Press, Carefree, AZ.

Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred (1997). Patrick Carnes & Joseph M. Moriarity. Hazelden, Center City, MN. 

A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps: A Guidebook for All People in the Process of Recovery (1989), Patrick Carnes.  CompCare Publishers, Minneapolis, MN.

He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ (2009). Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD, Forward Press Publishing, LLC, San Antonio, TX.  

For Spouses

Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts (2008). Edited by: Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D., Gentle Path Press, Carefree, AZ.

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful (1994). Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers.

Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors (2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray.  Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT.

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To (2004). Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishing, New York, NY.

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001). Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois. 

Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars (1999). Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI. 

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others adn Start Caring for Yourself.  Melody Beattie, Hazelden.  

The Dance of Intimacy. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY.  

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner.  Harper & Row, New York, NY.

The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women’s Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner.  Harper & Row, New York, NY.  

For Parents

What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation, (2008). Jill C. Manning, Ph.D., Sheridan Books, Inc., Ann Arbor, MI.

Pornified:How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families.  Pamela Paul.

A Brain Gone Wrong: Hope For Troubled Teen (2008), Dr. W. Dean Belnap, Meridian Publishing, Fairfax, VA.

Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference. Frank York & Jan LaRue.

Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that’s Gone Stark Raving Mad. Rebecca Hagelin.

How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character.  Brenna & Stan Jones.

Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age.  Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical

Institute for Sexual Health.

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character.  Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello.

Parenting with Love & Logic.  Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay.

Parenting Teens with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. 

For Therapists & Clergy

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001). Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik.

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004).  Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.  

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001). Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin.  Hazelden, Center City, MN. 

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (2001), Patrick Carnes.  Hazelden, Center City, MN. 

 Facing Shame: Families In Recovery (1986). Merle A. Fossum & Marilyn J. Mason. Norton & Company Ltd., New York, NY.

Uncovering Shame: An Approach Integrating Individuals And Their Family Systems (1990). James M. Harper & Margaret H. Hoopes. W.W. Norton & Company, Inc., New York, NY.